When all you can do is hold on

May 27, 2014 by  
Filed under current, Serenity Space

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It’s no secret I like a peaceful life. Sure, I like celebrations and fun and the chaos that a house full of teenagers and their friends and our friends and all the extended family creates. But I do like to be able to sit in peace at the end of the day and breathe deeply of the quiet.

I have been on a quest these past few years to design a life that nurtures and nourishes me easily, so that I’m able to be present and focused for those who need me. One element that has been crucial to my well-being has been a calm steadiness. A grounded, in touch with nature, solidness to my life. Where the foundations are firmly embedded in what I know to be true, and in what I value most in this world. Love. Grace. Presence. Generosity. Faith. Trust.

And yet these past few months I’ve felt like I’ve accidentally strapped myself into a roller coaster and some days it’s all I can do to hold on. There’s winds howling through my life, change, illness, loss, grief. And there’s magic too. The upswings are grandly amazing… there’s things we’ve planned and hoped and prayed for, finally happening. The roller coaster climbs to soaring heights, and the view is breathtaking in its beauty. In those heights I know the true meaning of faith, trust and hope. Then suddenly after the peak, the ground drops away and a chasm opens before me. Hang on!

Sometimes all we can do is hold on for the ride.

Whether it’s a planetary alignment that has us reeling, or a series of things (that individually would be handled with a minimum of fuss) all crowding in on top of one another. Or whether it’s a life phase, a time of upheaval and transit, full of hellos and goodbyes, it leaves us feeling like yelling: stop the world I wanna get off! or wondering what we’ve done to deserve this.

When all you can do is hold on for the ride, there are a few things I like to remember:

1. Stay Grounded.

On that roller coaster we lose our connection to the ground, and our body. We’re so in our head or our emotions, trying to deal with things as the cart rockets around, we forget to be present in our self, to our self. Leave reminders for yourself to be grounded. Boost your morning practice. Get outside and feel the grass between your toes and the sun on your skin.

2. Breathe.

Deep, restorative breathing. There is something so life giving about taking a moment to notice your breath. It brings you right back here into this present moment, no matter whether you’re high in the air or plummeting the depths.

3. Call in lifelines, phone a friend, yell for help.

Don’t do this alone. Too often when we’re stressed we shut down. We don’t want to be a burden or a nuisance. And yet, we’re the first to offer if someone else needs a hand. Allow someone to be there for you. Allow someone to see your turmoil, ask for what you need. Allowing them to support you is a gift.

4. Smile at yourself.

Too often lately when I pass my bathroom mirror, I catch a glimpse and think ugh! So I’ve instituted a new practice. Smiling at myself as I look me in the eye every morning. And any other time of day I pass a mirror (alone;) When I see the smile reach my eyes, my whole face lifts. It gives me a little boost and reminds me to smile at others during the day. It’s almost impossible to feel truly stressed out when you’re smiling with your eyes.

What do you do?

When all you can do is hold on, what helps keep you steady? 

About Káren

kw 250I am Káren Wallace – empath, see-er of your depths, coach to women who long to light up the world and have clean knickers for tomorrow.

Like Michelangelo I see the statue in the stone. My gift is to help you see the single tree within the forest. With the perspective of that incredible treasure that’s already within you, I guide you to know – your identity, your worthiness, your light. With huge doses of pragmatism and love.

Now fully in recovery mode after a recent illness, I’m preparing to welcome new women into Calm Space Salon in the next couple of weeks. If you’re curious about what working with me may feel like, apply now for a complimentary Calm+Clear Session, full of insight, compassion and light.

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